Internalized ableism
What is internalized ableism?
Internalized ableism happens when we project negative feelings onto ourselves. It stems from how society labels disability as inferior, and is rooted on stereotypes.
We are told by society that we have to meet their expectations, what they see as ‘normal’. However, society has set up standards for ‘normal’ that are impossible to achieve. So, when we don’t, we feel ‘abnormal’ and ‘unfit’ for society. The truth is that there are societal stereotypes as to what disability looks like, when, in fact, disability looks like everything. These societal stereotypes can impact us and make us deny our equity rights and accommodations needed. You refuse to seek for help because ‘you don’t look disable’ so you dismiss yourself.
How do you know if you experience internalized ableism?
You might be experiencing internalized ableism if you find yourself thinking things like you don’t fit in the disability community, you are not ‘disabled enough’, feeling lazy or like you are not trying hard enough, internalizing other people’s comments, feeling like you don’t ‘deserve’ accommodations.
An example of internalized ableism is acting as if ‘autistic behaviours’ are shameful, something we are not supposed to do. These feelings of shame and guilt are the result of the ways we have been mistreated by the dominant culture.
How do you manage internalized ableism?
We might never fully overcome internalized ableism because it is very rooted, sneaky and it might find it’s way back in. But, we can work on it to make it harder each time it tries to take a root.
You can manage internalized ableism by:
Become aware of ableism both in society and yourself. Only being able to notice the thoughts, feelings and behaviour attached to internalized ableism is what is going to help you to change it.
Do not stop asking for accommodations and support. You need it and deserve it.
Receiving support does not mean you are a failure or you are weak, rather than the system has been created inequitably.
Your worth is not measured by your level of productivity. You are not what you do.
